Gender identity.

Oh hey, by the way – I’m a Femme. This is likely obvious due to the name of my domain. However, that doesn’t mean much to some folks. And that’s okay! Know what I love? Educating people who love to learn. Since most of the people who read this are queer or queer-because-they-love-us-queers, you probably have an idea of what Femme is or means to a Femme in your life, be it me or someone else. Except, maybe you don’t. Have you ever asked a Femme what it means to her to identify as Femme? Have you ever thought about what Femme gender is and isn’t? Have you felt like you wanna know more but didn’t think it was okay to ask?

The floor, my loves, is open. I officially (for what it’s worth) deem this coming weekend “Femme Identity Education Weekend.” You have questions, I have some answers. I also know a ton of Femmes whose answers will vary wildly from my own. Let’s talk about Femme. And let’s watch a little something that gives us a place to start.

Sh*t People Say to Femmes

Chances are, you’ve seen one or ten or seventy-two of the “sh*t people say to” videos. Me too. And this one is about on par with the rest – some of it resonates, some of it makes me roll my eyes, and some of it doesn’t relate to my experience at all. But it all relates to someone’s experience of Femme.

Tell me about your experience as a Femme. As someone who has dated a Femme. As someone who is friends with Femmes. As someone who has fucked a Femme. As someone who has been fucked by a Femme. As someone who has no fucking idea what the big fucking deal is about Femme.

It is all welcome, and will all be respected, and responded to with kindness, consideration, and love.

I wanna know what Femme means to you. And in comments, and in a wrap-up post this weekend, I will talk about what Femme means to me. Besides, you know, everything.